Monday, March 22, 2010

Getting Back To Us

Last night I got something I've been needing for a very long time. Peace. Quiet. Relaxation. Time with Jaime. Time away from my kids. Yep, that's right, Jaime and I went out on a much needed date!

Now that we have children and a home, and Jaime has two jobs, we don't get a whole lot of time together. Especially just the two of us. There is always someone else invloved, the kids, friends, our roommate. It's a very rare occurance around here that Jaime and I have the house to ourselves, and can enjoy each other's company.

Last night, after we dropped Jenny off with her mom and Aiden off with his grandma, Jaime and I came back home to an empty house. There was absolutely no one here, and let me tell you, it was great!

We started the night off with a quiet dinner, just the two of us. I made 'American' style tacos. Personally, they are one of my favorite meals. Jaime likes them too, but since he is from Mexico, he says they aren't real tacos. I tell him to shut up and eat. He does what he is told. =) The funny thing is, that even as much as he trash talks my tacos, he eats at least 4 or 5! I'm not kidding when I say at least. Actually, last night it was more like 6 or 7. I guess he was hungry. And after he eats, he proceeds to tell me about how good they were and that he won't talk about my tacos that way again. But I know that it will happen again.

Anyhow, after dinner, like usual I started to clean up the kitchen. You see, I am a firm believer that if I cook, you clean. And if you cook, I'll clean. Jaime seems to disagree. He thinks that I should cook, and clean. Usually it turns into an argument, and it almost turned into one last night too. Until I walked into the living room, and saw him on the computer looking at movie times. He wanted us to go to the movies that night! Of course, I did the next logical thing. I stopped cleaning, and ran upstairs to get ready. Mostly because I needed to get ready, but partly because I knew Jaime wasn't just going to let the mess sit there - which meant he would clean it up.

Jaime and I can never agree on which movie to see. Never ever. So we always end up flipping a coin. He picked 'Shutter Island', and I picked 'Remember Me'. Coin flipped. I won! I love winning. Jaime is a sore loser, but he gets over it.

The movie was a great choice. Especially because it was a Sunday night at 9:00pm, and so we were the only ones in the theatre. I love being the only people in the theatre. You can talk loud, laugh loud, sit wherever you want, throw popcorn at the screen....just kidding about that last one.

Suprisingly though, it really gave Jaime and I time to just be us. The us before kids. The us before the responsibilities of a home and bills and mouths to feed. The us that used to have lots of fun together. The us that I wish we could be more often.

In those few minutes before the movie actually started we were able to get in a pretty deep conversation about things that we normally wouldn't talk about. Things that don't involve the stresses of life or kids. We laughed, we talked, we even flirted. Overall it was a great night.

I didn't even care that the movie wasn't the great. I didn't even seem to notice that Robert Pattinson was on screen right in front of me. All I was paying attention to was Jaime, and the great evening we were having together. I guess that's what marriage is all about when you have kids. Finding the time to go out on dates is important for a marriage. Especially one like ours, where we spend a lot of time apart - Jaime at work and me with the kids. Sometimes in a marriage it is very easy to forget about who you were before you had kids, and before the stresses of life. But sometimes in those few quiet minutes alone, you can really begin to see who you used to be together. And more importantly, learn that you really haven't changed at all.


Sarah @ said...

This reminds me of something my mom said once. She and my dad got a weekend away when my sibs and I were school-age and when they got back, we asked if they had fun. She said that when we were older, we'd understand that sometimes it isn't about having fun, it's just about looking across the table and thinking "oh yeah, I remember why I like you!" =)

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